Dear Future Husband.

It’s been over a year since I last wrote to you

Since I last wrote down manifestos, structures or project plans of what our love story would look like.

Built our foundations with borrowed plans from society and other picture-perfect couples

Mapped out our journey based on fantasies and deceptive ingenuity

And it’s been a year of learning

And following a lead.

Following the principles of the one who before we drew first breath, knew our beginning from the end.

Who wrote in a great book, innumerable promises that would remind us over and over again of how much He’s interested in our lives.

Who had me convinced that I didn’t need to write our story

But to submit my pen and watch how it unfolds.

Dear future husband,

I have not come with sweetened words or plethoras of promises that might be hard to keep.

Today, I have come with questions.

Have you come to fully understand what love means?

Not the love that wants to see beneath my outfit

Not the love that’s being defined by society or pop-culture

But the love that is from God. That is God Himself.

Have you come to fully understand that we can’t do life together, love as we ought to if we don’t give the Holy Spirit the key to our hearts?

If we don’t let the only begotten of the Father be the foundation

We’ll be like builders who sleep while watching the city.

Have you come to realize that we can’t fully love each other, thoroughly know each other if we still neglect the Father?

Or don’t even know what His voice sounds like

Do you think we can come together as broken people, wishing to fill the broken pieces of ourselves?

We’ll be a mess if we haven’t been made whole by the Father.

Have you any idea how vulnerable and open we’ll be with each other?

How we’ll learn to forgo our past and place our future right in God’s hands all the while doing the present being led by the Spirit?

How committed we’ll stay with each other?

Choosing each other daily till forever?

I want a love life devoid of selfishness, self-centeredness, putting flesh above the spirit, loving on our terms, jealousy, impatience and envy

And to want a stable relationship with you is to have a real relationship with God.

I know these things might not come easy to me, maybe to you too.

But you know what I’m most certain of?

With you in my life and with the Father’s Spirit as a guide

I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.

I can love you wholeheartedly.

Give my heart, soul and body to you.

Be your biggest supporter

Your truth, your guidance and your friend

Through Christ who strengthens me.

And I really hope that this God strengthens you too

That you have come into a place of surrender and submission with Him and nothing in your life is done without Him

Even when it involves choosing me.

I really hope that you have gained freedom from whatever baggage you might have

And healed from whatever wound you might have.

So when we meet

Our Two becomes One.

Formed by God, Chosen by God, Called by God, and Joined by God.

And now this three remains

Faith that our life together is a huge representation of heaven right on Earth.

Hope that you’re somewhere pursuing righteousness, faith and peace(might be me)

Love that we both have for God and for ourselves even before we meet

And the greatest of this is Love ❤️

~Adeola Peace.

Whew! This is me being a hopeless romantic writing this not-so-poetic-words to somebody’s son in my rawest, spiritual form. I really hope someone out there reads this and learn a lesson or two from it.

Love is beautiful, wholesome and unique when God writes the story.❤❤

Published by Adeola

I'm an illuminated lamp to this generation. I'm an insurmountable teenager. I'm a fast growing poet and writer. I'm Peace of God

49 thoughts on “Dear Future Husband.

      1. “Have you come to realize that we can’t fully love each other, thoroughly know each other if we still neglect the Father?”


        “And to want a stable relationship with you is to have a real relationship with God.”

        This is so well written. I relate on all levels. I have always been reluctant to write such (my prospects of baeship elude me) however, this is something I’d pray, ask or want to write.
        Well done young lady! I love it

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      2. 😂😂😂😭😭😭 I’m actually hollering!! Thank you so so much ma❤️❤️ I always look forward to your comments. Thank you for the support😭

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  1. Wow… Please know that you have such talent and your words not only touch me, but so many here… Keep writing, expressing and touching our souls. You’re a gift to this world.

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  2. Wow! This was just remarkable. This your husband is blessed oo. God, your daughter has poured so please let your blessings overflow. See love notes outpouring but madam, you made great points. This needs to be framed. It was well portrayed and well written. Thank you for sharing 😊🥁

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  3. This is sooo good. I started writing letters to my future husband in April of 2019. I haven’t been consistent cause Expressing my emotions is new for me. But writing to him has been shockingly therapeutic for me. I’m learning how to trust God, be vulnerable and submit!! Society gave me the wrong Depiction of submission that even I read Proverbs 31 I told God he had me messed up. How you tell your maker he got you messed up?? Lol

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    1. Thank you so muchhhh for this comment ma’am. Expressing my emotions is hard for me too which was why I started the letters so I get you a lotttt. Honestly, the lies society feeds us with can be so disastrous but we gon’ keep trusting God 💃💃 Thanks again. I really really appreciate. Never stop the letters, the best is here already 💃💃💃

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      1. I thought I was the only girl that struggles expressing herself lol. I didn’t even want to get married so when god told mr to write to my husband I’m like “you sure you’re talking to the right person??”😂😂😂 but I’m so glad I listened I feel so much happier and my anger is somewhat manageable. How long have you been writing if you don’t mind me asking. It’s hard for me to write something cause I feel he won’t wanna read them all

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      2. I started when I was 15. Just scribbles in my journal or any book I found. I fully became consistent about 3 months ago. And it’s been blissful. I don’t know if I’m the only person who feels this way but it makes the idea of marriage less scarier and forms like a kind of bond with a person I don’t even know yet. 🥺🥺

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      3. Yesssss I totally agree!!! I never wanted to be married cause I didn’t see healthy ones growing up. And no man was gonna tell me what to do. Since Writing these letters I’m learning it’s okay to be submissive and I actually can’t wait to be married. I don’t know him yet but I feel sooo safe and Secure like I can talk to him about anything. It’s refreshing 🥺🥺

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      4. That’s the spirit!!!💃💃💃 I’m so so happy to hear this. You’re getting healing even from writing the letters. I bet your love story is going to be marvelous!! 🥺🥺

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      5. Yours too!!! I’ll look back at this post and think “wow sis really covered my marriage under the blood🥺 ”😂😂😂


      6. Keep writing them to him, no matter how he feels. The right one will definitely appreciate it no matter what and now imagine him writing letters to you too. That’s something I’m sure God can inspire💖💖💃💃

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